Dear Young friends,
It was unfortunate that we lost a highly talented, intelligent and promising actor in the suicide of Sushant Singh yesterday. Through his personal actions and cinema like Chichhore he presented a very positive thinking person and advised people against taking such a drastic step in life, but ended his own life. Is it just a tragedy or something more?
Experienced psychologists say that there are four types of intelligence: IQ, EQ, SQ and AQ. You all must be familiar with the first three, Intelligence Quotient (IQ), Emotional Quotient (EQ) and Social Quotient (SQ) but the experts now have added one more that is Adversity Quotient (AQ). Let us see in brief what all these stand for.
Intelligence Quotient (IQ): this is the measure of your comprehension ability”, solve maths; memorize things and recall subject matters.
Emotional Quotient (EQ): this is the measure of your ability to maintain peace with others; keep to time; be responsible; be honest; respect boundaries; be humble, genuine and considerate.
Social Quotient (SQ): This is the measure of your ability to build a network of friends and maintain it over a long period of time.
People with higher EQ and SQ tend to go farther in life than those with high IQ but low EQ and SQ. Unfortunately our educational system, especial the primary and higher secondary schools emphasis on improving IQ level while the importance of EQ and SQ are played down or totally ignored.
Your IQ represents your knowledge/awareness/academics, EQ represents your character/personality; and your SQ represents your charisma/charm/magnetism. Please give quality time to develop habits that will improve these three Qs but please give more importance to incrase your EQ and SQ.
If you are parent or a teacher, please don’t teach your children only to have higher IQ , but also to have higher EQ and SQ. Expose your children to other areas of life along with academic. They should taken up manual work, sport and art. Encourage them to read fiction, autobiographies, self help books, anything that is not part of their studies. Develop their EQ, SQ and AQ. They should become multifaceted human beings capable of doing things independently of the parents. Please do not prepare the road for the children. Prepare the children for the road.
Now about the new quotient, the Adversity Quotient (AQ): It is the count of your ability to go through a rough patch in life and come out without losing your mind. AQ determines who will give up in face of crisis and may leave their friends, jobs, professions, businesses and even abandon their families.
In the current scenario of Corona, many professionally successful people and highly intelligent students are going through different levels of nervousness, disappointment or even depression because they haven’t seen or experienced such a situation in life and they are not prepared for an Adversity. This is the right time face it, prepare yourself and accept the happenings around you.
Sushant Singh is a warning for all of us!! Let the almighty give all of us enough courage to face the adversity and make us stronger.
Madhu Menon (with inputs from WhatsApp University)
June 15, 2020